Thursday, July 1, 2010
COMMUNION
Forgive me if I have touched on any of this before. I think its content is timely for me and it may be for you.
A friend once told me, when I confided in him that I had never had a serious relationship, that "there must be something seriously wrong with me". It wasn't the response I was looking for but it did send me into a rage, at least internally. All my life I had been tortured by the idea that being in love or being loved was the only way to feel whole. Love and desirability were always and still are presented as the ultimate ratification of ones worth in the world and I imagine it is a source of great comfort, at least for while, not unlike deep religious practice. For me romantic love is generally represented as yet another portal into the arms of normative society. While this right of passage or rather much sought after prize may at times be a beautiful example of tenderness, passion, desire and even loyalty in human beings it is also a fount of anguish, dejection and a great sense of failure among so many. Personally, while I do enjoy a good love story I think the social ball and chain of the "your nobody till somebody loves you" sentiment is a great distraction from personal growth and odious in its ever presence in song and film as the exaltation of life at its most pure. Not everyone finds love. In fact not everyone finds themselves the object of desire at all.
Sometimes I find myself trying to figure out if the loneliness and lack of desirability I have always had and that feeling of missing something, of not sewing my wild oats or having been madly in love and loved in my youth, if it is a socially constructed neurosis or... is it simply that I have failed at being loved, at being fully human.
As I watch my face and body change with age and as the years do slip away I cant help but wonder about and mourn what I have missed in those sweet and greener years of my youth. To my eyes the language of young lovers that I might witness or encounter on any given day speak a language with each other that is totally foreign to me.
In more sentient moments I feel duped, brainwashed into feeling I didn't ever deserve a place at that table, that I was denied a feast and moreover that that feast would somehow fill me. Like most things among the human race it represents a kind of cast system. Within this system there are those that are disenfranchised and are made to feel they aren't fully living life unless they are loved and loving, racking up bedpost notches or bleeding into a diary about the pain and tumult of their romances.
I don't disbelieve in love as a whole. From my own experience I have fallen in and sometimes out love with my friends more then with anyone else. Those relationships haven't all been a fairy tales either, but they have taught me patience and compassion as well as the pain of letting someone you hold dear go.
What I have come to understand along the way is that I can revel and revile the human experience of communion with equal parts brio and dissonance.
When I am at my best I do not need your gaze for any kind of approval, I can laugh at my own jokes, find ecstasy throwing down in my own kitchen or on a canvas, and I don't need your caress to tell me my eyes are soft or my cheek is lovely to cup in your hand. My exaltation is not necessarily how I am experienced by others or how I move through the world but in how I choose to experience the world moving through me.
Happy New Year
Wednesday, May 5, 2010
Patches of Sun
For Jasmine
I vacillate between dark and defeated, a general ennui, inured to the violence of the indifference and rejection I face every day and amused and excited by people i find dear, endearing and inspiring.
I have fought with my and legs long enough
Prayed my face was good enough for a pair of bare arms around my waist.
Now I pray for bleached bones and green glass worn lonely and content
Their hourglass figures long broken,
No trash bins or fingernails tapping at their necks,
A new life as impotent beachcombers trading the nightclubs for hot sand and cool water.
I have been like them all along
Wrong places wrong body
I will trade all my starvation for tender fingers for this
I will lay face down in the surf rushing toward the sand
As long as it takes to be like them
Smooth and glistening
Taken hard every day by the waves, washed asleep for hours.
Monday, May 3, 2010
Branding your Soul
dig it!
The formation of individual Identity based around social structure, economic circumstances, religious doctrine and ethnic background is not a new phenomena. What has changed dramatically in recent history is how that indoctrination is carried out, the efficacy with which social movements that thwart conformity are absorbed by corporations redirected and commercialized.
In modern times the drive for ratification of ones identity through the acquisition and or use of signifiers that radiate success, beauty and sexual potency has become deeply commercially codified. The efficiency of this mass indoctrination has begun to resemble a type of brainwashing that could be having catastrophic effects on individuation, social innovation and creative thinking in the human animal.
With impunity and regularity, the controllers of wealth, political power, media and information colonize radical identities found in the underground for the purpose of self aggrandizement, commodification and to render the originators of these identities impotent within society. Among the controllers of wealth and power is is a tactical response meant preserve the concentration of resources, control the innovators and co-opt those innovations.
Independent thought is dangerous. The formation of individual identity that is not linked to commercially approved ideas of beauty and success is seen as a threat to powerful multi national corporations that control much of the planets wealth. Homogeneity and the exploitation of human insecurities surrounding physical beauty and desirability are key to maintaining power and control over the enormous commerce in human desire. Ads and information designed to control the populous, by enslaving them to products and services that promise relief from their malformed and "inferior" bodies and faces and lives, flood our senses every day.
From a very young age I became aware of the influence film, television, popular entertainment and commercial advertising was having on the development of human identity. I watched as my contemporaries, more or less within five years of my age, were adopting behaviors, in fact what seemed like entire identities, they had seen on TV or in the movies or how their favorite musicians dressed and acted. It is of course natural in the process of individuation to look for role models especially those outside your family. What stuck me was the inorganic quality, the artifice of these social masks that people were wearing. Body language and facial expressions as well as vernacular all seemed to be based on codes adopted from what TV characters and magazines instructed as cool and my contemporaries seemed so unaware of how affected and inauthentic these social masks were.
I can appreciate it when someone is honest about being in love with an idea of how to be and behave based on some a personal hero found in pop culture. What disturbs me is the lack of introspection and desire to explore beyond the boundaries of popular identities not only among conformist social sets but even in supposedly non conformist social sub sets. In other words your average goth kid isn't exactly reinventing the wheel in terms of individuation.
It is clear to me that Noam Chomsky is on point in his essay "The Manufacturing of Consent" as it applies to ideas about physical beauty and individual value in the context of group acceptance and corporate control over those social standards. People are looking for ratification of their identities through modalities and frame works that are no longer developed in a tribal system but manufactured on a corporate level for profit and control.
Long before Hollywood was corporatist the barons of that industry quickly understood the power of that medium over individual and group psychology. With the advent of the moving image, with the creation of the starlet and the matinee idol, people flocked to Hollywood because they knew, if they were lucky, they would find wealth, adulation and immortality. The riches that were once primarily the province of aristocracy and the privileged classes were now attainable as they never had been before. The chance to be desired on a level never imagined for common working class people was quite an amazing sea change in human history and there was something truly egalitarian about that idea. It was kind of like winning a lottery. The cultural price of this dream and the propaganda created by that industry around what signified beauty and happiness was, in many ways, catastrophic.
The fantasy of fame became the ultimate drug and people imagined themselves as living the glamorous lives played out on screen and on the streets of Hollywood with all the drama and tragedy so beautifully staged. Don't get me wrong, I love film and as an artistic tool its been used to astounding affect. What concerns me is how images of human identity have been represented, molded with the intent of manipulating, indoctrinating and subjugating the general public. It strikes me that the early barons of Hollywood whether they new it or not were creating a textbook for corporate giants and power brokers on how to control the masses on how to sell an idea of how to be and feel and what to aspire to.
At the same time wherever there is this intense commodification there is, transversely, the artists and innovators, those who work in the mediums of film and music and art who challenge ideas about human identity, social tyranny and power structures within our societies. These artists are a force for great social change and we need them desperately. I will talk about a few of them and their work in another post. I have tired myself with my own verbosity.
Peace
zzzzzzzzzz
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
lamb of love
Saturday, April 17, 2010
Bones of the Earth
Friday, April 16, 2010
Gone Deaf
There is an empty space here
Between the pages and my fingers
Gone deaf
Gone silent
Gone bone dry
Pressing my eyelids for memory
I enumerate our mistakes
With less than agile reflexes
this fractured history is told in supple scars
They lay on the wall like brail
And we read them together
Two fools volunteering for blindness
Playing for single notes
And our feet like tambourines
On side streets in gutter puddles
Clapping in time and out.
Singing into this empty bowl
We listen for
its hollow
ceramic howl
like a song playing on obsolete vinyl
Scratching,
whining
and warm
Thursday, March 11, 2010
Haunted
an old clothe worn thin at the hem by tremulous fingers.
I worry this minute this hour like an old house floor
Longing for the afternoon’s innocence.
I worry these arms
cramped and lonely
two branches
twisted in wind
dipping into fast unconscious waters.
I worry these legs,
these feet and
the unyielding gravity
wrapping me in memory like a widow.
I worry my eyes and my mouth
forlorn
for smooth bellies and a
a finger tracing my spine.
I worry my days like a mother
Sure of the pain in everything
Even in the sweetest delight.
I worry my life like a fugitive
Running tender footed onto and under the sheets of strangers
To forget why
to stop
to smother the worry
So
For a moment…
I can breathe.
me, circa sometime in 2004 or 5